Sunday, September 18, 2011

Refined Manners

A Muslim woman’s strength of character should not make her forget that she should treat her husband with honor  and respect. Even in those moments of anger which are unavoidable in a marriage, she would control herself and restrain her tongue, lest she say anything that could hurt her husband’s feelings. 

‘A’ishah (radhiallahu anha) represents the highest example of this good quality, and every Muslim woman should follow her example. The way in which she swore an oath when she was happy with her husband, the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), was different from the way she spoke when she was upset with him. This is an example of good manners and respect. 

It was something that the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) noticed, as she narrated that he said, “I know when you are happy with me and when you are upset with me." She said, “How do you know that?” He said, “When you are happy with me, you say, ‘No, by the Rabb (Cherisher and Sustainer)  of Muhammad,’ and when you are upset with me, you say, ‘No, by the Rabb (Cherisher and Sustainer)  of Ibrahim.’”  She said, “Yes, that is right. By Allah   (subhanahu wa ta’ala) O Messenger of Allah, I only keep away from your name.”

What refined manners and sincere love!

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